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BFFs At Work? Do You Have One?
āļøDo you know, what every single woman whoās shared her encounter of female rivalry with me has said? She felt alone when she was going...


Frenemy Promises: Signs You're In a 'One-Sided' Friendship.
ā¼ļøA frenemy promises something that it never really delivers, true friendship. Because a frenemy relationship is typically one-sided and...


Bystander Effects of Bullying at Work.
āļøDid you know? 70% of high-performing females in leadership positions feel bullied by other women at work (Houlis, 2018). āļøDid you also...


Change Blindness: Seeing What's In Front Of You.
āļøšDo you readily notice new changes that occur right before your eyes? Iām sure most of us would like to answer that question with a...


Circles Are Endless, But Not All Friendships Are.
šThe rolling waves continuously crash. A pause. Then quiet. Ending with a crescendo. A flow that canāt be stopped. An endless circle....


š£Talking Smack And Chitty-Chat-Chat: Lessons Learned From Fishing.
After a busy, social summer our family recently ended August with a week getaway at the beach. Itās one of our happy places. A place...


You Do You! Positive Competition For The Win!
Itās that time of year.... everyoneās back at school. Where did summer go? I blinked, May turned into September and now both of my kiddos...


Women Who Like Themselves, Like Other Women
Something caught my eye the other day. I was scrolling through social media and read the following question, āAre there benefits to...


Flowers Donāt Compete: They Complement Each Other And Grow
All of these beauties came from my garden. Their magnificent colors. Their beautiful differences. They all grow in the same conditions in...


Is An Over-Involved Frenemy Truly Your Friend? Facing Female Frenemies. Part IV
Juliaās Story: āAnytime anything came up between us sheād make me feel like I was over-sensitive and blowing things out of proportion....


Are you Dealing With A Controlling Frenemy? Facing Female Frenemies, Part III
Joannaās Story: āIn my blended family there was lots of animosity from my mom after my parentās divorce, especially when my dad married...


Do You Have A Competitive Frenemy In Your Life? Facing Female Frenemies, Part II
Marenās Story: āFor as long as I can recall, thereās always been an up and down pattern between me and my mom. Sheād brag about me to her...


The Frenemy Persona Overview. Facing Female Frenemies, Part I
A lot of people ask me, āWhatās a frenemy?ā Even to the point of, āIs it a made-up word?ā Nope. Itās a real word and itās been around...


When We Compare And Compete We Canāt Connect.
I was recently thinking that for someone whoās an observer to my blogs and social media content it may come across that Iām (only) very...


50 Years Ago: 37 Words
Author note: āI realized after Iād already written this post that Iām accomplishing a pretty big personal milestone today. This is my...


The Weight of Society: Showing Up Today, For Tomorrow.
āwe will not be delayed. we will not be masquerade. to the tale of a handmade. we will not let roe v. wade slowly fade. because when we...


Male Allyship + Mean Girls: The Work Perspective
Itās a known fact that men and women, for the most part, communicate differently. Think of the book series, Men are From Mars, Women are...


Male Allyship + Mean Girls: The Family Perspective
Last Fall I gave my first in-person talk in almost two years. It was exciting to be back with real-live-people, and not at home, on-line...


Hater's Gonna Hate: Shake It Off Baby!
Thereās a person in my social circle that no matter what I do or have done, itās perceived with malice. Itās been that way for years. And...


The Queen Bee Complex: Do You Tear Down Or Lift Up?
Iām sure youāve heard of the āQueen Beeā expression? Sheās regularly thought of as a bitch and an instigator of female rivalry behaviors....


The Mental Health Impacts of Female Rivalry.
āļøDid you know āMental Health Awareness Monthā in May, has been observed in the U.S. since 1949? Thatās 72 years! Mental health awareness...


Female Rivalry: It's More Than Competition.
She came up to me with tears in her eyes and said, āThank-you. I thought I was the only one.ā It was several years ago, right after Iād...


An Ode to Motherhood: The Process of Growing.
Our family has a cherished digital picture frame we received as a gift. Watching the evolving photos is like taking a daily trip down...


š Yes Queen, Youāre Allowed To Terminate Toxic Relationships.
People have been positioning their boundaries as far back as time goes, because boundaries are built out of necessity to establish...
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