Something caught my eye the other day.
I was scrolling through social media and read the following question, “Are there benefits to wanting everyone to like you? Asking for a friend.”
For whatever reason this question made me pause.
I was truly trying think if there were any benefits for having this wish.
My first thought was no, I thought it sounded utterly stressful.
My second thought was, who at some point or another, doesn’t have the thought, wish or desire for other people to like them? ‘Everyone’ liking them may be a bit much, but I believe as humans, it’s innate in us to want people to like us. Some people will argue, that isn’t true and may say things like, “I don’t care if people like me, I don’t care what anyone else thinks about me.”
But to think this way all of the time? Nope, I’m not buying it.
I think these types of feelings come and go. I think it depends upon your mindset, confidence and where and what you’re doing in life — that makes your “not give a fuck meter” ebb and flow. I also truly think that with age, and I like to think with wisdom, the older you get you really don’t care who likes you. Or to paraphrase a bit better, you really don’t care if there are some people out there who don’t.
And my third thought about this question was, maybe they’ll choose you and maybe they won’t. But none of it matters if you don’t choose yourself.
This is the clincher for me because I’m a firm believer that people who like themselves like other people. In the work I specifically focus on, I continually use the phrase, ‘women who like themselves like other women.’ And when that occurs dear reader, I firmly believe it’s reciprocated, because people see you authentically for who you are.
Here are a few takeaways about this concept:
Be yourself, no matter what.
You can be a good person and still do things that others won’t like.
You are responsible for your own happiness. if you expect others to make you happy you’ll always be disappointed.
If you’re always worried about what other people think of you, you’ll never fully enjoy life because it will never be yours.
People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.
Put out there what you want to attract. Be the energy you want to experience in the world.
It’s hard to swallow sometimes, but someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business. You’ll be amazed at what you attract when you start believing what you deserve. Don’t worry if people don’t like you - most people my friend, are struggling to like themselves.
“you alone are enough. you have nothing to prove to anybody.” -maya angelou
So, are there benefits to wanting everyone to like you? There may be, there may not. I honestly think it would take a lot of energy to think this way. Ultimately, however, it’s more important to pay attention who you’re with when you feel your best, and notice the people who make an effort to stay in your life.
These my dear, are your people.
You already are. It’s time TO BE.♥️ P.S. Stay tuned for my blog out next week about competition and heading back to school.
I say that it’s time to be different. It’s time to talk about liking yourself first! Women who like themselves like other women! _________
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