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Squad Goals: Why Connection With The Right People Matters

😳I once dated a great guy but didn’t like how he treated his mother. In my gut I knew if he treated his mom poorly, he’d eventually do the same to me. I was right. Bye-bye, Felicia!👋🏼

💡You’re probably familiar with the following motivational speaker quote,


“You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”


It's definitely something to think about.

⁉️Who has your attention, who affects your mood, who’s getting it right versus who’s getting it wrong and ultimately.....


WHO helps you become the best version of YOU?


💡This is the very essence of psychological safety, because it impacts every single relationship we have. A positive connection with the right people matters so much, on so many levels because it:


  • Provides safety

  • Helps us control our emotions

  • Bolsters empathy

  • Improves self-esteem

  • Allows us to cope better

  • Decreases depression, stress, and anxiety

  • Strengthens our immune system and enhances longevity and last but not least….

  • It allows us to feel like we belong.


You don’t need to have this type of connection with a hundred people, fifty, or even twenty, although that’d be fantastic if it were the case. You simply need it with your core squad.


Take a look at the people you spend the most time with. How do they:

  • Treat other people?

  • Talk about other people?

  • Treat wait staff or those in a customer service industry?


What they say or do is a reflection of who they truly are, because their actions represent their foundational essence. If it’s not nice, you’ll eventually be on the receiving end of those same negative behaviors. That’s why it’s so important to focus on who’s getting it right and make an effort to spend more time with those people! 


Pay attention to who:

  • Is honest

  • Listens

  • Encourages, energizes and cheers you on

  • Is there for genuine connection and checks in on you

  • Reciprocates like behaviors


💡Noticing these things, promotes awareness for you to take action about who you’d like to spend more time with. If the vibe is bad, let them go! Life is too short to be around people who aren’t helping you become the best version of you (and vice versa)! With that being said, this quote comes to mind,


“You control the vibes that occupy your space. Don’t be afraid to open a few windows to let the trash take itself out.” -S. Bennett-Henry


⁉️Who’s in your squad?


“Sometimes in life you meet the wrong people, but once in a while, the right people come into your life and never leave. They are the people that celebrate you on your brightest days, but also comfort you on your darkest nights. They are the light bringers and the dream boosters. They elevate you, they challenge you and they believe in you. They remind you that every night has a day and every scar can be healed. You may not see each other as often as you like, but when you catch up, it lights the whole sky.  These people are more than just your friends – they are your squad. Hold on to them, protect them, and love them – you’re better together.” -Bryan Anthonys


♥️Choose a squad that chooses you! Choose people who avoid competition and jealousy and never make you feel like you’re not enough. Choose people who let you be you, who like you as you are but also don’t let you settle. Choose people who lift you up, even when you’re not in the same room together. Choose a sisterhood squad of positive relationships where you feel safe and they feel safe in return.


It’s important to note that your squad may be made up of a variety of people, friends or family, it also doesn’t matter the size of your squad, big or small, as long as it’s truly authentic. It takes work, but it’s more than worth it to have a trusting, peace of mind!


As June is winding to a close, I hope you’re able to take the dog days of summer to look at the connections you have and ultimately, are able to spend more time with the positive people in your life. I’ll be doing just that! This is my last blog of the summer until I return in the Fall. Until then... shine on beautiful people!🦄

♥️Today I will be fearless. Today I am grateful.


P.S. If you’re interested in learning more about psychological safety and how to deal with female frenemies, follow me on LinkedIn!


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